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Caught in the Middle

At a time when baby boomer couples should be saving for their own retirements, many feel squeezed by competing financial needs. Having started families later than past generations, their children may just now be entering college or still living at home. At the same time, aging parents may need financial assistance. It is a dilemma that is likely to become more common.

Caring for Parents

As life expectancies continue to rise, it becomes increasingly likely that you may need to help an aging parent. Some financial precautions you should consider now include:

  • Investigate long-term care insurance for your parents. If they can't afford the insurance, you may want to purchase it.
  • Have your parents prepare a listing of their assets, liabilities, and income sources, including the location of important documents. This can save time if you need to take over their finances.
  • Make sure your parents have legal documents in place so someone can take over their financial affairs if they become incapacitated. They may also want to delegate health care decisions.
  • Understand the tax laws if you provide financial support to your parents. You may be able to claim them as dependents if you provide more than half their support. Additionally, you may be able to deduct medical expenses paid on their behalf.
  • Find out if your employer offers a flexible spending account for elder care. This may allow you to set aside pretax dollars to pay for up to $5,000 of elder-care expenses for a dependent parent.

Assisting Your Children

For many families, college is a significant financial cost. While you may want to pay all college costs for your children, it may not be feasible. Some strategies to consider include:

  • Shift some of the burden to your children, requiring them to work part-time during college or to take out student loans.
  • Understand the financial aid system, investigating all financial aid sources. Search for scholarships that are not based on need. Apply to several different colleges, looking for the best financial aid package.
  • Look for ways to reduce the costs of college. Your child can start at a community college, which is often cheaper than a four-year college. Or consider a public university in your state.

Once your child graduates from college, don't assume your financial responsibilities are over. Adult children may return home for a variety of reasons. If your child returns home, realize there are increased costs. Consider charging rent and imposing a deadline on how long he/she can stay.

Don't Forget Yourself

When faced with the needs of children and aging parents, it's easy to neglect your own need to save for retirement. But don't feel guilty about your retirement needs. One of the best gifts you can give your children is the knowledge that you will be financially independent during retirement. Consider these tips:

  • Calculate how much you need for retirement and how much to save on an annual basis to reach that goal. Don't give up if that amount is beyond what you're able to save now. Start out saving what you can, resolving to significantly increase your saving once your parents' or children's needs have passed. Also consider changing your retirement plans, perhaps delaying your retirement or reducing your financial needs.
  • Take advantage of all retirement plans. Enroll in your company's 401(k), 403(b), or other defined-contribution plan as soon as you're eligible. Also consider investing in individual retirement accounts.
  • Reconsider your views about retirement. Instead of a time of total leisure, consider working at a less stressful job, starting your own business, or turning hobbies into paying jobs.

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